Hi there all you good people! The question Is He Really Committed To You is the title of todays article. Theres a sentence in the beginning that goes like this “running for the hills” which remains me of the rock band Iron Maiden which has a song titled Run for the hills. I think rock stars, creative and adventurous people may have a little difficulty with comittments but on the other hand they may meet someone like minded to share their life with. I think its all about giving the relationship time to grow and then the rest will come naturally. If someone starts to talk about moving in together before getting to know each other enough it will scare the other away. Here in Sweden we have a term “särbo” which means having a distance relationship instead of living under the same roof. Everything has its pros and cons and if the decision how to live together and develop the relation is equally decided of you both it will be fine.
Commitment can be one of the scariest things that many men face in their lives. Everything is great as long as their girlfriends don’t expect them to totally commit to them, and only them. There’s just something about saying to someone that you’ll be only with them from now on that strikes terror in the hearts of a lot of guys. It’s because of this that it’s difficult for many women to know whether or not their boyfriends are fully committed to them. They certainly don’t want to bring up the subject because that can end everything and send the guys running for the hills. So the question becomes how can you tell if he’s committed to you or not?
Looking at the way your guy reacts when you mention things such as weddings of friends or relatives will give you a big clue as to how he feels about permanent commitment. If he turns pale and sweaty, you’ve probably got a man on your hands that would rather throw himself off of a Hawaiian cliff rather than get married. He also most likely will avoid the subject like the plague. You’ll notice lots of subject changing.
Take a cue from the reactions you get as to whether or not you should simply sit him down and have a long honest heart to heart talk about where the relationship is going. If you get the feeling that he may become less interested in even being in a relationship if the subject is nailed down, you’ll probably want to wait before bringing it up. This may be a difficult thing to do if you’re ready for a full blown commitment and he doesn’t seem to be.
Another thing to notice is how he is around children, babies in particular. If he doesn’t seem to want to be around them and will do all he can to avoid this event, chances are good that he’s not close to committing to you, or, probably, anyone else. Babies tend to frighten men that don’t want a commitment because they see babies as the final nail in the coffin of entrapment. You see, babies are a true responsibility and it means that you’re tied together for the rest of your life.
While guys may be amenable to moving in together, if they feel that you’ll take this to mean that they’re committed to you, it might not happen. Moving in with someone means that the relationship is being taken to the next level, that level being one where a commitment is involved. If they feel as if you’re going to expect more from them with a live in situation, they’ll probably pass on it and insist that your relationship is more exciting when you each have your own places to call home.
Those are just the major ways of telling how your guy feels about commitment. On the other hand, if he loves talking about weddings, loves babies, and can’t wait to move in with you, then you’ve got yourself a commitment in the making. And if not then you may need some more advice; if so continue to read below….
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