Five Pillars of Healthy Relationships

Ask any architect, educator or psychiatric professional the basis of producing anything of quality able to stand the test of time and they will point toward a strong foundation as the initial criteria. Without a solid foundation, nothing lasts. A scary aspect of foundation building centers around keeping every portion solid. A weak spot threatens the stability of the whole and leads to eventual collapse.

People acknowledge the wisdom of a strong foundation when building a house because of the physical nature of the foundation inherent to the structure. Establishing and maintaining a base for a relationship proves much trickier because individuals bring so much into their relationships from the way they have been raised, past hurts and their own need. Focusing on five key areas simplifies things while giving couples avenues for growth throughout the life of the relationships.

Respect

Mutual respect starts the process. It places a hedge around the couple by saying they value the other person. One of the greatest barriers to respect is setting aside the temptation of focusing on what a single partner treasures. In some ways, this should come naturally. As children, people receive training at a young age to get along with others, share and give others a chance to voice their beliefs and feelings. Respect needs to exist first to clear space for other pillars.

Trust

When forming a relationship, a sensation of safety where being hurt becomes drastically reduced causes both partners to feel wrapped in a warm blanket. Is it possible to develop a healthy relationship without trust? Absolutely not. Fear flourishes where partners are unable to trust one another. Even the smallest gap in the armor weakens the structure of the relationships making forward progress practically impossible.

Five Pillars of Healthy Relationships

Intimacy

This aspect within relationships come in many shades. Most couples may hear the word intimacy and immediately jump to the bedroom. This is a fraction of how true intimacy forms and displays itself. Couples who have been together for decades share the most intimate things with and without physical contact. Fortunately, the best way to be so close stems from being in a healthy relationship.

Communication

Is communication important in a relationship? Every relationship, whether romantic or not, never thrives without open communication. Couples who learn to speak from their heart, accept constructive criticism and seek to build up one another discover communication becomes easier. This aspect always takes work and operates ideally within a stable relationship.

Love

Out of a full heart, several of the other pillars can be supported. Love abounds when in a respectful, intimate, trusting and communicative environment. As a quality, love can act as the binding material drawing in and building up the other aspects of a healthy relationship.

Each of these qualities may exist alone in a relationship. Times occur when one needs to move to the foreground to address a concern. Regardless of the stage of the relationship, all five pillars need to be present if the couple intends to be close for a lifetime. Maintain respect, trust, intimacy, communication and love and the relationship will be strong enough to weather any storm.

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Will My Ex Be Back: Looking For Love

Today im sharing the article named  Looking For Love.I know a good place to start looking; in your own heart. When you find that gentle and loving feeling inside yourself you want be looking for love  because love will be looking for you;) Im not joking. You know love is all about attraction and you will attract what you send out. Be ready and someone will be there for you sooner or later. Meanwhile prepare yourself by reading this article.

Best of Luck in Love and Life

Dick Scott

You probably remember that really old song called “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places.” This could describe the search that many people go on to find that elusive love that they’ve been hoping will find its way to them. There are too many people in the world that do keep trying to find love in all of the worst places they possibly could. If this is you, it’s possible that you don’t even realize you’re doing it. What you probably do realize, though, is that you keep striking out over and over again in the game of love.

Are you hoping to find that special connection with someone by indulging in bar hopping? While that almost always works when it comes to one night stands, you probably won’t find your true love in a night club. That’s not to say that it won’t ever happen, but the odds are usually not that high when it comes to long term romance and forever after relationships. It’s fun to go to out dancing and having a great time. Just keep in mind that having fun is usually all that happens in a night club.

If you’re trying to find someone to form a true relationship with, it’s good to, sometimes, get to know that person from the inside out. In that way, you can discover what sort of person he is and whether or not you’ve got anything in common. Many people choose to do this through online contact. This can be done through chat rooms as well as the explosion of online dating websites. These sites offer the opportunity for people looking for potential partners to scan personal profiles, list their own, and match up with website members that they seem compatible with. This is a method that has worked successfully in a lot of cases.

In this same vein, there are also match making companies that take charge of connecting people with those that are most compatible with each other. Of course, these companies cost a lot of money to sign on with them. For many people, though, there can’t be a price put on the chance for a healthy, loving and long term relationship. Some people save up to pay the fee so that they can join one of these services.

You can also join various clubs and community groups where others have the same interests as you. These are the very places that you’ll find someone that can end up being the one you’ve been searching for all this time. Many communities have singles events and groups that you can join so that you can interact and become acquainted with other singles that are also looking for love. This method can be more effective than those you pay for.

Just keep in mind that when you’re looking for love, pay close attention to the places you’re using to hunt. That can tell you a lot about what your chances of success will end up being.

Thanx for reading and have a pleasant day!

Dick Scott

 

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Will My Ex Be Back:Mending My Broken Heart

Surviving the Immediate Future

Once you get past the initial shock of the break up, you will still have a period of mourning.  During this time, you have to toughen up.  While you may have been able to indulge your self for a short time, now it is time to adjust to the new reality.

Take good care of yourself.  While having a pint of Ben and Jerry’s felt good right after the break up, developing good eating habits is important now.  You should also be exercising regularly.  The endorphins that your body produces when you exercise will help improve your mood.

Don’t be afraid to cry when the mood strikes you.  You are going to have ups and downs.  But, don’t give in to a chronic state of depression.

Forgive your ex.  At some point, you will have to forgive your ex for breaking your heart.  You will also have to forgive him for any actions he took during the relationship which hurt you.  The longer you hold anger toward him, the longer it will be before you can exit the break up mentality.

You should also ask him for forgiveness for any of the hurt you caused in the relationship.  This will allow you to cleanse.

Go out – even when you don’t feel like it.  This can mean going out with your friends for social things.  But it can also mean going out on dates with a new person.  While you don’t want to enter into a hot and heavy rebound relationship, going out on dates will allow you to see yourself as an attractive catch.  It will boost your self esteem at a time when you really need it.  Go out on a date with someone you are not likely to fall in love with.

Socialize with your friends and reconnect with people who you have let go of.  Many times, a relationship dominates our lives and our other friends get squeezed out without us even knowing it.  Go through your address book or email list and find people you haven’t talked to in a few months.  Set up a time to go out for coffee.

Take up a new hobby or interest.  If you always wanted to try toll painting, take a class.  If your ex was a couch potato but you like the great outdoors, join a hiking group.  Not only will your new activity take up some of the time left vacant from the termination of the relationship, you will also have the chance to meet new people.

Think about getting out of town for a few days.  The change in scenery could be good for your soul.

You can also get a new hairstyle or do a wardrobe makeover.  You don’t have to consider his preferences any more.  It may be a good time to reinvent yourself.

Remember that healing takes time.  You are going to have good days and bad. 

Figure out what you were supposed to have learned from the relationship and then apply that to your life in the future.

Finally, believe that your ex did you a favor in the long term when he called it off.  Your true soul mate is still out there waiting for you.

In the long term, you will begin to compartmentalize the experience.  Your ex will become just another boyfriend.  That will be one part of your life, but you will have many other parts.

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