Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance?

Todays article Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance? is about high hopes for today and big dreams for the future which aint wrong as long as we share  those dreams and hopes with our partner. If we both have the same expectations and goals we will be happy. That issue is also a little philosophical, some of us are very satisfied with less then others who expect more. On a personal level it is not wrong to have expectations on your partner as long as you also live up to them yourself by giving what you want and by being loving and kind yourself. Have a nice reading and a happy day!

Blessings

It’s great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when you’re sharing it with the person who is the love of your life. Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where the hero also realizes the error of his ways and gives in to the heroine’s every whim, or, on the other side of the coin, from watching rap videos where women are throwing themselves at the feet of men ready to cater to their every whim.

As a society, we’re giving mixed messages between fantasy and reality and it’s ruining more than its fair share of romances. If your relationship is becoming a bitter disappointment because it isn’t meeting up to your expectations here are a few things it might help you to remember.

Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others

Whether you’re comparing your relationship to real relationships other people have (what you see of those relationships anyway) or something in novels or on television screens, you’re doing your relationship a huge disservice. Reality can never live up to fiction and you’re only seeing the public side of other relationships. You’re not privy to what’s going on behind closed doors.

Establish Realistic Expectations

The truth is that we all have expectations of life that rarely live up to reality. When it comes to relationships, learning to compromise and have expectations that are more realistic can make a world of difference when it comes to how happy you are with your partner. Both of you have areas where there is room for improvement. Identify them and make changes where appropriate.

Learn to Speak Up When It’s Important

The other problem regarding expectations arises when you fail to speak up when something is really important to you. Your partner can’t meet your needs if he or she isn’t aware of them. You must speak up and let your partner know what’s going on in your head and in your heart. You can’t hold the other person in the equation responsible for unknown variables. It’s not fair to either of you or your relationship.

It doesn’t seem like such a big deal at first glance. However, adjusting your expectations just a little bit, in order to meet your partner in the middle, can make a world of different to your happiness with the relationship and with your partner.

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Will My Ex Be Back: Why do Men Cheat?

Hi to you all this sunday. Todays article Why do Men Cheat? could perhaps also be the other way around because cheating is unfortunately not only done by men. But this article focus on that side of the problem and how women can deal with it in the best way possible. I think it is one of the hardest thing to forgive and forget when you love someone and it sure hurts really bad. I also think that true love is strong enough to conquer and survive any challenge if we stand side by side when there are difficulties within our relationship.

Love and Light

It’s an ages-old question. In the dawn of man, it was simple. It was a biological imperative. That’s why many religions in those times condoned and even encouraged men to have multiple wives, concubines, and consort. It was to assure survival of the species. We’re talking about a time where one in three children died before the age of one. Science and education have brought about many advances. However, women are still sometimes held hostage by biological clocks in the same way men are sometimes tempted to cheat — even when they are happy with their wives.

What does that mean for you?

It means you should take comfort in these next words. It’s not YOUR fault. No matter what preachers on television, mass media, or people selling gym memberships will try to tell you. He didn’t cheat because you’re not thin enough, beautiful enough, good enough in bed, or even because you don’t keep the house clean enough. Will changing these things make him happy? It’s quite likely that if you become the sexiest woman in the neighborhood and suddenly start cleaning house like Donna Reed he will be pleased with the results. However, doing all these things will not prevent him from cheating.

Think about it. Some of the most beautiful women in the world including former Bond girl Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, Elin Nordegren, and Reese Witherspoon have all been cheated on by men who love them. It’s not always a matter of not being beautiful enough, rich enough, or anything else.

Does This Men all Men Should Get a Free Pass for Cheating?

Absolutely not! The thing about cheating is that it undermines the trust in the relationship at the most basic level. It’s not acceptable in today’s society where marriages are binding emotional contracts. Cheating, breaks that contract and leaves the wife doubting her beauty, her appeal, and her worthiness. It’s an act that is destructive on far too many levels to excuse.

That doesn’t mean, however, that cheating must be the end of the relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth. While celebrity couples that go through it often do not recover (largely due to the intense media scrutiny of the most intimate and painful details of their lives), it doesn’t mean that your relationship can’t survive if you’re both willing to work to make it happen.

The truth is that men cheat for all kinds of reasons. Very few of them have anything to do with the way the other woman looks. It’s more about how she acts and how she makes him FEEL. Now is the perfect opportunity to make the time to learn what you can do to make him feel the same way the other woman does.

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