How He Says "I Want You Back"

In most relationships, the result becomes binary. It is over, so there is no contact between the former members. The status goes from being "in a relationship" to "available." But what happens when a former lover makes a gesture of rekindling. Excitement can overshadow caution, or worse, bury signs of genuine longing by the other. Let's see how one might reveal their intent to reenter a romantic relationship with something to consider at the beginning.

A Word of Caution

Take stock of the situation surrounding the relationship and what actually occurred within it. If physical or emotional abuse existed, recall the charms used to place you in the situation to begin with. If constant infidelities shattered the trust, consider the steps necessary to rebuild the trust and if the potential for a return to pain would be worth it. Also, take stock of what is happening in both romantic lives currently including new relationships in the awkward growing phase. Those infant relationships present new challenges while presenting the possibility of flourishing into something richer than any recaptured magic.

With the caveat complete, more exciting and positive things await.

Asking About You

Some of the early, tentative signs requires him to get in touch with people surrounding you. He may reach out to friends and family to inquire about the status of your love life, what is going on and getting a high level feel for how you are doing. This can be challenging for him because he enters the initial ring of defense. These people, especially after a hard break up, will be more likely to rebuff him and stand ready to defend you from further pain. If willing to press through this outer barrier, it demonstrates his willingness to fight for contact with you.

How He Says "I Want You Back"

Random Direct Contact

Gone are the days of formal introductions and courtly politics to reestablish old alliances. Today, a text, email or other social media contact can act in this fashion. Early salvos need to be warm and address the past relationship. This means, especially if things ended poorly or hurtful things were said by him, the first message should contain a sincere apology for his portion of the conflict. Groveling is not a prerequisite. In fact, being too conciliatory may stir more suspicion than if he never brought the matter up at all. With clear relational decks, accept what he has to say and see if you wish to go farther.

Recalling the Past

One final way to know if he seeks to return to your life locks into the action of pointing back to past events. A foundation of shared history means milestones like anniversaries, special dates and locations hold sway over his heart. His discussion of them will also reveal just how much the time you two spent together meant to him. Hearing the details that mattered to him and teasing out why they made such an impact will give a clearer picture to how he viewed you then, how he sees you now and possibly what brought him back around to desiring a restart to the relationship.

Everyone longs for the redemption of an old relationship. Movies have centered around recapturing lost loves. Songs fill the airwaves with the promise of love returning. It speaks to the deepest parts of us as people. Being open to its possible return means things may flourish where all once seemed lost. All it takes is clear vision and an open heart.

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Article 1 In a Series of Articles on Its In The Stars

Introduction

“What’s your sign?” has been a pick up line since singles’ bars have been around.  In casual conversation, it provides a starting point for talk.  But, is there more to astrology when it comes to relationships? 

Astrology is much more complicated than simple sun signs.  Other planetary influences have a great deal to do with what makes up a person.

But star signs are the single most determinant facet of the astrological chart.  They paint, in broad strokes, a person’s personality.  They determine whether the person wants to chase or be chased, whether they will open their soul to you or keep it close to the vest.  You’ll find some star signs tend to like art museums while others like kayaking more.

If you are at a critical juncture at your life, you may find that a men of a certain sign might fit your current situation better than others.  If you are looking for a rebound relationship, an Aquarius man is just right for you, for instance.  But, that would be a bad choice if you are ready to settle down.

Keep in mind too that your sign is an important component to the relationship.  A Taurus woman is the perfect complement for some signs and toxic for others. 

The Magic of Making Up and Love Again

If you are looking for your perfect match, this guide will give you a broad outline of the kinds of men found under each star sign.
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Aries

Aries is the sign of the Ram.  Aries are born between March 22 and April 21.

An Aries man believes in love at first sight.  Once he has his eyes on you, he will stop at nothing to get you.  The chase is part of the attraction, so don’t be too easy to get right away.  He loves what he can’t get.  He also loves to win and loves winners.  He is especially drawn to witty, independent women. 

The Aries man wants a woman to flatter his ego.  But, be careful not to overdo it as this can have the opposite effect of what you want. Try to always be dynamic and straightforward.

Once you’ve landed your Aries man, you will find that your relationship is an adventure.  One person described dating an Aries man as “playing bowling with grenades.” 

Aries men are very generous with their time and money.  This kind of generosity is rare these days.  You’ll probably never have to pick up a check when dating an Aries man.  You will also find yourself on the receiving end of many gifts.

When an Aries man loves you, he really loves you.  It’s not ambiguous.  It is a fierce and fiery hot passion. 

He will tend to be somewhat idealistic.  You may find him overly so at times.  He wants to be the Romeo to your Juliet which can make you exhausted.  He can become quite grumpy if he feels like you are not living up to his idealistic view of you.

Aries men tend to love their freedom.  They will also allow you to have yours.  Possessive women tend to have problems with Aries men.  But you don’t have to worry about his loyalty. 

To keep an Aries man, you have to be a constant challenge for him.  Don’t let him dominate you.  Give him the thrill of having to try all of the time.