Stop Listening to Your Girlfriends – Here’s What You Need to do to Get Him Back

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Dick Scott

You love ‘em dearly. You know your girlfriends have your back. But, when it comes to tactics to get your ex back, they just may be steering you in the wrong direction. They could, well meaning as they may be, even be hurting your chances of success.

Getting dumped by the boy you still love is one of the most difficult things a girl can go through. When it’s all said and done, you have one though on your mind – getting him back.

Your girlfriends have been there to hear you out. They’ve given you shoulders to cry on. They’ve even shared their super secret chocolate stashes with you to help you get through this crisis in your life.

Now, they’re offering you the best advice they have to give on how to get him back. Unfortunately, their advice is based on the rules girls play by and they aren’t going to be all that effective at getting him back. If you really want to win him back, you’re going to have to play the game by his rules – to some degree.

Playing a Girl’s Game with the Boy’s Rule Book

1) Never let him see you coming.

Your number one priority right now is to get him back. That means you have to dedicate yourself to the task. But, you have to do it in a way that doesn’t look like you’re trying to get him back. Don’t show your hands because he’ll constantly be watching and waiting for you to make your move.

2) Show the world you’ve moved on. 

This includes your girlfriends. Smile. Go out and join the crowd. Fake it until you have everyone convinced that you truly have moved on.

3) Let him know you’ve got game.

All the time that you’re trying to show everyone you’ve moved on, you need to invest in making yourself over from the inside out. Become the stronger, more independent woman you’ve always wanted to be. Get a makeover. Change your hair style. Learn to walk in those six-inch heels guys love so much. Become confident in your own skin. Once you’ve accomplished all this – then you let him see you coming and watch the fireworks as he takes in the new you.

Why is this so Effective?

In relationships, you often begin to take each other for granted. The more you learn about each other, the fewer mysteries there are to uncover. You’re presenting him with a whole new you and many more mysteries to unlock. It’s a curious mystery he’s powerless to resist – especially if there ever were genuine feelings on his part. And your girlfriends? They love you regardless of whether you take their advice or not.

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Put Your Kids First

When you are a parent, your kids come first.  No matter what.  If a child’s soccer game conflicts with your new love’s company picnic, you should be at the game.  Don’t skip a concert performance for a night on the town.

One of the things your kids will be looking for when you start a new relationship is whether you still care about them.  They are going to be jealous of the time you spend with the new man or woman thinking (perhaps rationally) that it takes time away from them.

That’s why it is so important to put your kids’ “big events” ahead of your new love’s.

Beyond specific events, you need to put your kids’ needs above the new person’s.  That may make things less romantic, but it’s part of being a parent.

If you are a single parent who only sees your children on weekends, you need to make it very clear to your new partner that these visitation times are for the children and they are not to schedule things with you or that conflict with the kid’s time.

Finally, you should always consider your children’s health, emotional welfare, and safety when you make any decisions about your relationship.  You’ll never forgive yourself if something bad happens because you didn’t put your children first.

But Don’t be a Martyr

Having said that your kids have to come first, you also should know that you shouldn’t be a martyr to them. 

Don’t use your kids as an excuse to avoid intimacy. 

If you are a martyr to your kids, you will sabotage any chance you have at finding true love.

The balancing act between putting your kids’ needs first and making space in your life for a new love is one of the hardest things for single parents who start dating to do.

Your New Love and Your Ex

One of the hard things about starting a new relationship is letting your ex know you are dating again.  If he or she is still in pain from the divorce, letting them know that you have moved on may be painful.

But, as hard as it may be, you need to let your ex know that you are dating again and that someone special has entered your life.

You should also take care to not use your new love as a weapon against your ex.  While it may be tempting to let your ex know that you’ve moved on, it’s unfair to use a date as a weapon. Your children will no doubt mention that you’re dating when they are with their other parent, and that’s fine. Don’t ask them to keep it a secret or they will feel like you are doing something wrong. Simply let things take their course, and answer their questions honestly.

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Blended Relationships

In many cases, both partners in a relationship have kids of their own.  It’s the whole “Brady Bunch” scenario. 

It is important for your children to be properly introduced to his or her children because it sets the tone for how the group will get along in the future.

While an adult can absorb bad behavior on your children’s part, a kid has a hard time.

You should also know that your kid is going to be stressed about meeting people who could become their siblings.  There are a variety of ways that this stress is played out.  Often, one child will start to bully another child.

While you may have some tolerance for bad behavior toward an adult figure that comes into the relationship because you naturally assume an adult can handle it, you should have zero tolerance for bad behavior toward another child.

You should also have zero tolerance for allowing your new love’s children to bully yours.

Remember, a new relationship is hard on the kids.  Adequately preparing them emotionally for all of the new bonds that are being made is of paramount importance.

Don’t Let Your Kids Dominate Your Dates

Separate out your dating life.  Some dates will be “family dates” where you include the kids.  But, other dates will be “grown up dates” and the kids don’t come along.

Or do they?

Too often, a single parent spends a lot of their dating conversation talking about their kids.  While this may seem natural because your kids are such an important part of your life, it can crowd out the important bonding between two people.

So, try to limit the talk about how “charming” or “dreadful” your kids are and focus on the other person.  Talk about things and interests you have in common.  Try to allow the other person to talk as well.

While you love your kids and they are the most important part of your life, your new relationship cannot be based solely on them.  You have to have an “adult” component to the relationship as well.

Therefore, you shouldn’t bring your kids along – even in conversation only – on adult dates.

When Relationships Dissolve

You may have done everything right.  You:

- developed a social life so the children wouldn’t notice when you started to date
- when you started to date, you kept the children in the dark until you were in a committed relationship
- prepared your children for the introduction to your new love well
- reassured your children that you love them every bit as much despite falling in love with another adult
- facilitated the development of the relationship between your children and your partner

Thus, your children have fallen in love with your partner much like you did.

But, then something went wrong in the relationship.  You no longer see a future together and you want out.

How do you break it to the children?

First of all, be compassionate.  Remember that they have already seen one relationship fall apart (yours with their other parent) and may see your break up as further indication that they can’t expect the adults in their lives to stick around.  This is the worst case scenario.

Therefore, you have to be compassionate about the break up.  If they want to occasionally see or phone your old love, facilitate that.

But you shouldn’t stay in a relationship “for the kids” either.  That’s a bad reason to stay in a marriage and an even worse reason to stay in a dating relationship.

Change and loss are part of life, things everyone has to deal with. If a particular bond is really strong, perhaps there's a way for that adult and child to maintain a connection.  But, don’t stay in a relationship that has run its course just because of that attachment.

Conclusion

Dating after a divorce is tough because the children need a strong adult presence in their life.  Instead of having two parents in the home, they have two homes with one parent in each.

There are also challenges to actually dating when you have kids.  You have to balance your romantic life with your family life.

Before you jump into any relationships, you need to think through what your plan of attack is.  Make sure you have prepared your children for what’s coming next before the occasion arises.

Before you had kids, dating was much simpler.  The demands on your time were simpler.  The emotional demands were simpler as well.

Concluding Article on Your Pretty Princess Wedding on a Pauper’s Budget

Seven Hidden Budget Killers

There are some things that Brides just don’t know to budget for ahead of time.  This means that when they get back from the honeymoon, they are faced with unexpected bills to start their married life.  Here are seven hidden budget killers to watch out for.

• Band Equipment – When you get a quote from the band, it will include the musicians’ time and the basic equipment.  But if your venue is large, extra speakers and microphones might be required which can potentially tack on thousands of dollars to the cost.  Before booking your band or DJ, explain the venue set up and get a firm cost for performing there.

• Gown Alterations – When you select your wedding dress, the price of the alterations is not included.  Simply re-hemming the dress can cost $100 and more time consuming alterations go up from there.  Don’t feel that you have to have the alterations done by the store though.  Taking it to a less expensive seamstress can be every bit as nice and not nearly as expensive.

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• Welcome Bag Delivery – Hotels charge a premium for welcome bag delivery.  They won’t even tell you about this upfront and often charge up to $7.  Ask about their policy up front.  If it is too expensive, ask if they will do a delivery at check in instead.

• Rental Transportation – You’d think that for the price your vendor is charging for the chairs (or other rental items), delivery would be included.  But, most often it’s not.  So, check the small print to find out what the rental cost is going to be because this can top $500.

• Taxes – Okay, the government doesn’t “hide” taxes from you, but they do charge it on everything and you may forget to calculate it in.  A wedding cake that costs $1000, will cost you an additional $100 in Los Angeles.  Just keep it in mind.

• Coat Check – If you are planning a winter wedding in July, you may forget that you’ll have to pay for a coat check at the hotel.  Have a good estimation of how many people you’ll be having at the reception and ask the venue planner what the coat check fee will be.

• Gratuities – A “service fee” is NOT a tip.  Don’t underestimate the number of people you’ll need to tip as part of the entire wedding process.

Conclusion

Weddings are expensive.  Unless you go to city hall with a minimum of fan fare, you are going to spend a significant amount of money on the affair.  But, by setting a budget and by being aware of the costs of each individual aspect of the wedding, you can keep the money under control.

Your wedding may be the most important day of your life, but many vendors will prey on the emotional aspect of “getting it right” and “once in a lifetime” to add costs that really aren’t necessary.  Having a plan will help you keep everything in perspective.