Sometimes You Have To Leave To Be Happy

While more and more families are supporting their gay members, there are still quite a few that just refuse to accept the lifestyle that their relatives are involved in. Ignorance abounds when it comes to the many blows that are dealt to gay members of society. Most people still feel that being gay is something that is chosen, and they refuse to accept the reality that the majority of gay people were simply born that way, just as straight people are. Lately, a rather prominent actress stated publically that she “chose” to be gay, which isn’t helping the plight of kids that need to come out to their parents. However, there’s another option for many gay people that don’t get the support and acceptance they need. It’s rather simple, really. They find a great place to relocate to.

That’s right. These people that have failed to receive the love, support and acceptance from the ones that are SUPPOSED to be offering those things have chosen, instead, to seek out other areas where they may be able to find what they need as well as happiness. For instance, a young man living in a small southern town in the Bible Belt finally comes out to his parents only to be thrown out of the house right around the holidays. On top of that, they refuse to continue paying for his college tuition unless he renounces being gay. So he lives with various friends for a couple of years, supporting himself by working as a cook, and finally decides to just pick a destination and buy a bus ticket. His destination lands way on the other side of the country. However, as soon as he steps off the bus, he’s welcomed into the home of some online gay friends. Within six months, he’s not only got a great home, but a good job AND is involved with the young man of his dreams.

That’s a true story, by the way. He was sad to leave his friends behind but finally understood that the only way his life was going to move forward in a better direction was for him to make the necessary changes. Once he committed to doing that, everything turned around. His new partner’s family has embraced him and he’s happier than he’s ever been in his life. He would never have found all of that if he had remained where he was simply stomping his feet in a mud puddle.

It’s not easy to so drastically change your way of life. On the other hand, it could be one of the best decisions and moves you’ve ever made in your life. This is especially true if the city you choose to make your new home is “gay friendly.” There will be many other like-minded people just waiting to meet you and help to welcome you into your new life. When you’re in a place where you’re accepted and can be proud of the person you are, you’ll have found the type of peace that you’ve never enjoyed before.

If it´s the other way around and you need to stay and get ex back to be happy read the following letter that i got from my friend:

Hi, 

T Dub here...

I get more email on a Sunday from good guys and

gals trying to fix a relationship than any other day.

Why?

Because Saturday nights are what I call "drama night".

It's a night of high drama for so many trying

to put the pieces back together in a relationship.

With that in mind...

This is darn good advice.

==>1 Thing you can do TONIGHT to re-attract your ex

...WITHOUT all the drama.

There's more...

Pay special attention to the common mistakes which (almost) always push

your ex away. (most of them are made on a Saturday night)

==>Are you making one or more of these mistakes?

If you are...

It's okay.

You can "reverse" most of them...

==>Watch Here

Rooting for you

T Dub

Dating And The Failing Economy

Dating used to be something that all couples looked forward to years ago. The dating ritual usually consisted of going out to eat and to a movie. In those times, the guy always paid for the date. If you look back far enough, you’ll even learn about drive in movie theaters when admission covered an entire carload of people. So double dating was a big deal. The snack bar served cheap popcorn and other easy food such as hotdogs and French fries. It was easy to have a $10 to $15 date back then.

Now, that the number of drive in movie theaters have diminished greatly throughout the years, it’s not quite as easy to have a decent cheap date. Indoor movie theaters now charge such outrageous prices to get in and even worse prices to get simple snacks and a soda once inside. What used to be a reasonably priced evening out is now easily $50 and up.

It may seem to be an almost impossible task these days for ordinary people to actually go out on a fun day. Wealthy people have no issues but those of the more ordinary working class can find it difficult to afford the typical dating scenario. That’s when creativity and imagination is required.

To begin with, women of today understand all about the economy and usually expect to be footing their half of the bill on a date. So if money is stopping  you from asking out that hot woman that you’ve been dreaming of for so long, you might just want to go ahead take the plunge. Granted, the first date should be one that you can afford to pay for completely because it IS a first date. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, though.
Save up as much money as you can to put aside for this first date. You can also use your imagination and create a different sort of date. Find out what she enjoys and build a date around that. Try doing something different. For example, if she enjoys riding bikes, plan an afternoon of bike riding in a nice location. You can even pack a picnic to enjoy in a special spot. Actually, picnics can be great ideas for many locations. The beach at night with a campfire can be a very romantic setting for a night time picnic. Just put your brain to work and you’ll come up with something.

Once the first date is past, it can become easier to plan more affordable dates because she may feel safer in having you over to her place or in going to yours. Each of you can cook dinner for each other and watch a rented DVD or play games. Basically, there are many things that can be done at home that are fun and affordable.

When you have formed a dating relationship with someone, it will most likely become quite common for her to offer to pay for her half of a date. In fact, SHE may even treat YOU on occasion. This is something that happens frequently when the lady does the asking.

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Will My Ex Be Back: Dinner Dates

Todays article Dinner Dates gives some great tips on dinner dating and why not invite to a date at your home. It will both be much more personal and also cheaper. You also will have the opportunity to show more of who you are and how you live. So make a great dinner with romantic music and a lot of candles and im sure it will be appreciated.

Good luck with your date and have a great wednesday!

Dick Scott

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In times like these where so many people are losing their jobs due to the downward spiral of the economy, dating can become a real challenge. Even dinner dates at places like McDonald’s can be difficult to manage. That’s why it’s a tossup of whether you should have dinner out or do the cooking at home.
Consider the price of a dinner out. If you go to a nice restaurant that serves excellent food, you’ll probably do well to get out for $30 to $35. Then you need to include the tip if your server has been very attentive and provided great service. Next, you should add in the amount of fuel you used for your car. With the prices of gas these days, it can add on another $10. For couples without children, it may end at this point. If a babysitter is needed, add on another $25 – $30, depending on how late you were gone. The overall cost of that dinner out can easily reach the $100 mark before the night is over.

Now, compare that with the price of a romantic dinner that you either cook or order in. Starting with take out, you save money instantly by picking it up yourself because you don’t have to tip anyone for service. Also, many restaurants that offer takeout orders will have specials that apply only to orders that are picked up by the customer. So you may even save more money. Your beverages will also be less expensive. That part is true even if you decide to buy food at the grocery store to cook yourself.

Shopping and doing your own cooking can really save some money. You can find a special on two steaks; add a couple of potatoes and a bagged salad that you can spruce up a bit. Throw in some dinner rolls and you’re good to go. In fact, you’ve probably got enough money left to spring for dessert. Once you’ve set the table with candles and turned on some romantic music, the ambience is also going to be much better. You won’t have lots of people talking loudly around you, or couples with several noisy children disrupting your meal, and that can mean a lot.

The thing is that while you spent nearly $100 on a nice dinner out, and it may have been wonderful, you could have had just as nice a time staying at home. Your meal would have been just as tasty and you could have spent a nice, quiet, romantic evening together; just the two of you. As for the kids, you wouldn’t need a babysitter because you will have them in bed and sleeping before your evening begins. If you’re lucky, you may even have in-laws or great friends that love to babysit your kids and they won’t charge you a dime.
In addition, the only gas you’ve spent is on your shopping trip to the store, and that was probably something you had to do anyway. So all in all, you’ll save a great deal of money if you choose to have your romantic dinner at home.

However, in the event of a truly special occasion, you may want to just throw caution to the wind and let someone else do the waiting on you for the night.

Thanx for reading and i wish you the best in life and love!!

Dick Scott

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Should You Even Try to Win Your Ex Back?

In the first few days, even weeks, after your breakup, the only thing you can think about ishow to get your ex back. It’s understandable. Depending on how long the two of you were together, you’ve shared a lot of life. It’s hard to just walk away and pretend it never happened.

The odds are good that your ex isn’t walking off unaffected either. The only real difference is that your ex has been thinking about this for a while. People don’t walk away from long-term-relationships on a whim. In other words, your ex has had a little more time to deal with the emotional side of the decision than you have.

If you’re struggling to decide if the right choice is to walk away or fight to get your ex back, these questions should help you decide.

Is the Love Still There?

This is a huge question you need to know the answer to before you make a single step to try and win your ex back. While you can only guess about how your ex really feels, you can, and should, explore your own feelings in depth before making your next move. If the love isn’t really there, you should not waste your time and energy, or that of your ex, trying to rekindle something that’s simply not there anymore.

Is the Relationship You Had Truly Worth Rehashing?

Most relationships have their shares of ups and downs. Successful relationships have far more ups in them than downs. Take a look back over the course of your entire relationship. How do the ups compare to the downs for you? Were the good times really good? How bad were the darkest days? Are you willing to experience them again if necessary?

How far are You Really Willing to Go to Make It Work?

You must be willing to do whatever it takes to make it work in most cases for that to happen. Your ex is likely to throw in a few pitfalls and tests along the way, if he or she is even willing to give it a go. Be prepared for them and ready to ace them with flying colors. Don’t even think about letting her see you sweat. But the willingness goes even deeper than passing a few tests. You must be willing to make a few vital changes for the sake of your relationship. But you won’t often find out what they are until the moment arrives. Just be prepared. Some of the changes may not be all that simple to make.

Most importantly, however, is your willingness to be the one to wait. This is often the most difficult, and most necessary, part of winning back your ex. Waiting for the right moment, though, makes all the difference in the world. I can help you understand when that moment is and help you come up with the ideal strategy to turn it into a prime opportunity.

Article 5 In the Series of Articles On Compatability During a Romantic Relationship

Communication

Sarah was a talker and Paul was a doer.  Where Sarah started any number of conversations with “I want to talk to you about…” Paul would rather express his feelings for Sarah by taking her out to dinner or buying her a bouquet of flowers. 

One of the big problems in their relationship was that Sarah said “you’re not listening to me” while Pau said “you don’t appreciate the things I do for you.”

This is a classic case of having different communication compatibilities.  Because they express their love differently, Sarah and Paul are in trouble.

This doesn’t mean that their relationship is doomed though.  They have to be open to the idea that they communicate differently.

Sarah may need to get her verbal communication needs met with her female friends rather than her boyfriend.  Paul needs to listen more when Sarah talks.  Sarah needs to appreciate that the way Paul communicates is to take her to dinner or fix her toilet. 

Women tend to be more loquacious than men in general.  It is common for communications compatibility to be an issue in relationships.  Fortunately, this is an issue where “let’s talk” can really solve the problem.

Sex

Sex is an issue in many relationships.  Some people are more adventurous than others.  Others want sex frequently while their partners are satisfied with making love less. 

You should know that mastery of technique is one of the least important facets in a satisfying sex life.  If you are able to communicate your desires to your partner, you can learn and grow together.

But, if you have fundamental differences in your approach to sex, there may be problems.

Jodi and Tom got together and at first, their passion was white hot.  Or so Tom thought.  But, after a few months, it became clear that Jodi was indulging Tom when she didn’t really want to make love every night.

Tom was confused because he felt that Jodi had led him on to secure the relationship and was now changing the terms.  Jodi felt that she was settling down into a more “normal” sex life.

Through relationship counseling, Tom and Jodi were able to discuss their needs and desires. 

Life Habits

So many things get ignored at the beginning of a relationship.  A woman might not care that her new boyfriend doesn’t ever wash his car because she’s swept off her feet by him.  A man might not be concerned that his new girlfriend seems to spend more time at the beauty salon than she does in her own living room.

But soon these life habits become apparent and can cause friction in a relationship.

Jim believed that “early to bed and early to rise made a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.”  On Saturday mornings, he was out of bed at 6:30 for a run in the park.  When he got back around 8:00 a.m., he wanted to have a big breakfast and start the day.

Julia, was not ready to face the weekend so early in the morning.  Saturday was the one day she could catch up on her sleep and she valued her time in bed.

Eventually, Jim joined a men’s Bible study on Saturdays so he felt that the morning wasn’t wasted and Julia agreed to be up by 10:00 when he got back so they could spend the rest of the day together.

But compromising on these life habits issues isn’t always so simple.  Sometimes, they’re deal breakers.  There’s only so much you can bend before you break.

Article 6 will conclude this series of articles on "compatibility in a romantic relationship".

Article 4 In This Series of Articles on Compatability Issues In a Romantic Relationship

Will My Ex Be Back Quiz

Work

Pamela had worked hard to break through every glass ceiling in her career.  She had been the only female Ph.D. candidate in physics in her class.  She had initially found it difficult to land a tenure track position because many faculty members believed that scientific research was incompatible with the “mommy track.”

Eventually, she proved her ilk as a science professor and became head of the department at a major research university.  From there, she had become dean of the School of Natural Science.

A promotion to Vice President of Academic Affairs at a university across the country followed.  That’s where she met Tim.

Tim was a psychologist.  He had given a presentation at the university on stress management that Pamela attended.  Intrigued by his ideas, she invited him to lunch.

She found that he had very different perspectives about work than she did.  For instance, he put in eight or nine hours a day but didn’t work weekends ever.  While he was proud of what he had accomplished in his career, it didn’t define him.

He recognized how hard she had worked to get to where she had gotten but worried about the toll it had taken on her.  At 44, she had never been married and had had few meaningful relationships.

Tim set out to woo Pamela.  He found that many carefully planned dates were cancelled at the last minute because of pressing and unexpected work schedules.

Eventually, Tim and Pamela had to define how their relationship was going to work vis a vis their careers.  Tim told Pamela that he needed her to make at least as much of a commitment to their relationship as to her job.  Pamela told Tim that she needed him to understand how important her job was to her.

Because Tim and Pamela really wanted their relationship to work, they were willing to put real effort into it despite their basic work compatibility differences.  But this is an example of a couple who through love and communication were able to succeed despite different compatibility levels.

Romance that last

Independence

Tracie liked to read, sew, and do crossword puzzles.  She had a small circle of friends, most of whom she had met through church.  Aside from her job (one where she didn’t interact with people much), she saw groups of friends at church and maybe one other time a week.

Ted was new in town and joined Tracie’s church right away.  He was immediately seen as a “catch” by all of the single women.  But, he saw something in Tracie and didn’t have eyes for anyone else.

The problem was that Ted was always doing something.  He joined a softball league, started volunteering at a soup kitchen, and joined the choir.  He was always pressuring Tracie to go to his games, volunteer with him at the soup kitchen, and to join to choir too.

What Ted didn’t see at first was that Tracie enjoyed her quiet ways.  She needed space.  While Ted was energized by social contact with others, this kind of activity drained Tracie.

Eventually, they decided that Ted would continue to have an active social calendar and that Tracie could participate or not depending on her feelings. 

This actually left both parties feeling that they had control of their independence.  Ted was able to be independent because he could do the activities he liked and Tracie had independence because she could choose not to do them.

Another example of the importance of independence is Robyn and Chad.  Chad was the highly independent type.  He liked to be “free as a bird” and didn’t like to “report” his whereabouts to Robyn.

Robyn was quite insecure.  She liked to know where he was and when he would be in for the evening.  Her previous marriage had dissolved when she discovered that her ex husband had had a long term affair which made her insecure about any future relationships.

Chad and Robyn had to go into counseling to deal with this independence issue.  Chad had to acknowledge Robyn’s insecurities and Robyn had to acknowledge that Chad wasn’t her ex husband.

Article 5 in this series of articles on compatibility issues during a romantic relationship will pick up with discussing "communication and other issues."

Article 3 In This Series of Articles on Compatability Issues During A Romantic Relationship

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Sociability

How much independence do you need and desire in a relationship?  If you are in your 30s and never been married, you probably have developed a strong social network outside of a romantic relationship and will be reluctant to give that up just because you’ve fallen in love.

Jake was a computer programmer and spent long hours in front of his terminal.  He was naturally a shy, quiet type and didn’t require a lot of social interaction to make him happy.  When he did get away from his computer, he liked to go hiking alone or work out at the gym.  Basically, he was an independent type.

Then he met Terri who was far more social than he was.  She was a computer sales representative and her job involved making social connections in order to make sales.  She thrived on contact with people.

Terri and Jake met when she came to his office to sell a complicated hardware system.  The purchasing manager had called Jake in to get his opinion about the system.  Jake said he needed more information just so he could go out with drinks with Terri.

After the initial bloom of the relationship, Jake started retreating back into his solitary world.  He still wanted to spend time with Terri, but he had no desire to meet her friends or enter into her social world.  Terri was hurt by this because she was so interdependent on her social network and felt this was a rejection of her.

Terri and Jake finally went into couple’s counseling.  The therapist was able to help them see that they had different needs for independence.  Jake had to compromise by being more social occasionally while Terri had to respect his need for solitude a greater amount of time.

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Spirituality

Many parents express to their children that they would be disappointed if the child married someone outside of their religious faith.  Most of the time when we think of spirituality in terms of romantic compatibility we talk about specific religions.  But, there is more to spirituality than that.

It is true that if you hold true to a specific faith, it may be hard to become close to someone who doesn’t hold those tenants.  If you believe that anyone who doesn’t accept Jesus Christ as their personal Savior is doomed to Hell, then dating a Buddhist or a Muslim presents significant obstacles.

Maria was a devout Catholic and always assumed she would marry a Catholic man.  She met Jim who was a lapsed Lutheran and fell in love with him.  As they started talking about their wedding, they began to see obstacles that could plague them for the rest of their lives. 

For instance, Maria wanted to be married by a priest in a Catholic church.  That made Jim uncomfortable because he had no familiarity with the Catholic church.  When the priest told Jim he wouldn’t be permitted to take Communion at his own wedding, he balked.

That lead Jim and Maria to talk about other issues that they would face as a married couple.  For instance, Jim wanted to raise his kids to be exposed to a variety of faith traditions and think critically about religion in general.  Maria wanted to raise good Catholics.

As Jim and Maria began to discuss these issues, they realized that their initial attraction for each other was being dragged down by the issue of spiritual compatibility.  Maria began to see a priest for counseling and ultimately realized that she would be happier with a man who shared her faith and Catholic values.

Article 4 in this series will continue with "work compatibility issues" during a romantic relationship.