Article 1 In the Series of Articles On Compatibility

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When you first start to date, you may feel that everything “fits” between you and your new girlfriend or boyfriend.  You notice everything that you have in common and gloss over your differences.  Because you want to please and impress your new partner, you may pretend to like or dislike things that you feel will please him or her.  For instance, a man may go cheerfully to the ballet with a woman while she watches football with him.  This is totally about their infatuation with each other and not their natural interests.

People are also careful with their behavior in the beginning.  For instance, he may not wear socks with holes in the toes because it might embarrass her.  She may agree to sex more frequently than she likes to please him.

But eventually the rose colored glasses come off and the efforts to win the other person tend to settle down.  At that point, a couple may look at each other and think, “do we really have anything in common?”

But, having put so much into the relationship, they might think they have to stick it out. 

But, at some point, the issues you have been ignoring become unavoidable.  You can no longer pretend that they don’t exist.

This report will look at the basic compatibility issues.  Specifically, we will examine 12 dimensions of compatibility and how they relate to romantic relationships.

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Physical Attraction

The first thing Kyle noticed about Rhonda was her long blond hair.  He liked the way it swirled around her face, framing and giving definition to it.  He went over to her in the bar based on that initial attraction alone.

Rhonda didn’t think Kyle was all that attractive at first.  After he bought her a couple of drinks though, she began to relax.  Despite having too short hair and some acne scars, she began to see some of the physically attractive things about him.  For instance, she saw just how expressive his eyes were and how his shy smile told her worlds about him.

Kyle and Rhonda have different standards for the importance of physical attractiveness in their mates.

Rhonda will probably have to work harder to keep up appearances to keep Kyle’s interest than Kyle will to keep hers.  Rhonda will look at other compatibility aspects to determine whether she is satisfied with the relationship.

The continuation of this series of articles on "compatibility issues during a romantic relationship", will pick up tomorrow discussing "Intellect" in your romantic relationship. Fast start to a loving relationship is >THIS<

Article 4 In The Series of Articles on From Breaking Up to Making Up

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Make the Call

One of you has to make contact with the other to close out any business you have together. Take the initiative and make the call. Try to keep it light and friendly.

Use the call to sense where your ex is in his or her feelings about you. For instance, does it seem like they are wanting to get back together? Do they want to be friends? Or, are they just hostile to you? A lot will depend on this phone call, so plan it carefully.

Try to keep the phone call short. Don't re-hash the break up. Don't level any accusations. Perhaps the best thing to do is to say “I missed you and I just wanted to check in. Whatever happens from here, I want you to know that I care about you.” Then, if it seems that things are on an even keel, suggest meeting casually over coffee.

But, don't drag out this call. Don't feel that you have to analyze the entire relationship or discuss the details of the break up scene. The goal of the call is the meeting.

The same rules apply if your ex is the one that initiated the call.

Your Meeting

The meeting doesn't have to be a date. It can be a chance for you to discuss things more calmly than you did when you broke up. Try to find a neutral, non-suggestive place. Don't go to the place where you had your first date. Don't try to recreate a fantasy. Instead, make it a place where you can genuinely talk about your relationship.

In the meeting you can decide how to go forward with your relationship. For instance, you can determine whether you are going to try to reconcile or whether you want to be “just friends” in the future. You may also decide that there is no point in ever having contact again. But this meeting can bring some closure to the relationship if that is the case.

We Are Getting Back Together

Not everyone will agree to have a meeting. If the break up was particularly painful, for instance if you cheated on your ex, the meeting may be impossible.

If your ex isn't keen on the meeting, suggest that he or she bring a support person with them. Tell them that there are some things that the two of you need to sort out before you can move on.

If You Reconcile

One positive outcome of the meeting may be that you decide to get back together again. But, if you do decide to reconcile, there are some things you should consider.

Don't Take Up Where You Left Off

One reason many people break up is because the relationship had gotten ahead of the parties. So, take a step back. Don't feel like you have to start right back where you left off.

For instance, suggest that you go out on formal dates again rather than just “hanging out” all the time. Consider taking a step back sexually as well so you have a chance to re-acquaint yourselves emotionally.

Make a point of making a production of the relationship. Think of romantic date ideas. Do things for your partner that will make him or her happy. Don't wear old sloppy “comfortable” clothes around them; make a point of always looking your best.

It will be amazing how making an effort recharges your relationship.

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Article 3 In The Series of Articles on From Breaking Up to Making Up

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Don't Try to Hurt Them

You may have the urge to hurt your ex. There are so many ways to do this. Resist the urge.

For instance, some people think that hanging around their ex and flirting with their friends is a good way to get them back. This rarely works, and when it does, it indicates that the relationship is shallow.

Other times, the partner badmouths the ex to anyone who will listen. This reflects far worse on you than it does on your ex.

Then there are the “pranks” that can land you in hot water with the authorities. Don't go slash his tires, place crank calls to her phone, or do other harmful things out of a sense of vengeance. This is childish, immature, and sometimes criminal.

Don't Beg

Another bad thing people do when they have broken up is to beg their ex to take them back. Remember an earlier rule – don't communicate. But this one is even more important. Even if you do communicate, don't beg. Later in this report we'll talk about how to get your ex back, but if you start to beg at this point, you will put yourself in a weak position later.

Remember, in every good relationship, there is a balance of power. When you beg, you lose your personal power which harms the relationship in the long run.

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Turn to Friends and Family

Your friends and family won't let you go on ad nauseum about the break up but they should be sympathetic during the first week or so after things go sour. Ask them for their help.

You should also ask them to let you talk about your feelings without giving you advice. Too often people want to “help” their friends and their help is really unhelpful.

Also ask them to spend time with you doing fun things. You are going to feel like moping around the house. If your friends drag you out, you'll end up cheering up much more quickly.

After the First Week

Okay, you have given the relationship the break you need to get your head on straight. What's next? You have to decide whether you want to get back together again or if you want to split up. But, this might not be clear right away. So, which ever path you want to take, there are some strategies to take after about 7 days.
So tune in tomorrow for next chapter from Breaking Up to Making Up.

Article 2 In The Series of Articles on From Breaking Up to Making Up

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Don't Be Hasty

A break up should never be over one dramatic experience. Put things in the context of your entire relationship. Remember, you can talk through most individual things. This doesn't mean that talking will save every relationship, but your relationship is a precious thing and shouldn't be thrown away over something stupid.

Think about whether you would rather not have this person in your life. What will losing him or her mean for you? What are the kinds of things you will miss out on when he or she is not around?

You have to ask yourself if you love the person. You need to know that the love doesn't end just because your relationship has. But, instead of having someone to share the love, you will just have a hole in your heart.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't break up. It just means that you shouldn't be hasty about it.

Don't Move On Until You've Moved On

It is not fair to move on before you have informed the other person. Don't start dating other people before your own boyfriend or girlfriend has been dumped. It will hurt ever so much more if your ex feels you cheated on them.

If you are in an exclusive relationship, keep it exclusive. This ties in with being honest. If you find that you have started becoming attracted to other people and your affection for your significant other has diminish, finish things off with him or her before you take up with someone else. It's the right thing to do.

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The Week Following the Break Up

The week following the break up is the most painful period. It is also the time when people do stupid things. Whether you are planning to never see your ex again or you desperately want him or her back, there are some things you can do and things you shouldn't do during this critical period.

Give Yourself Some Space

When you've broken up with your ex, you need a “cooling off period.” Tempers have flared, people have hurt each other and sadness has ensued. So, give yourself some space during this time.

Your best bet is to avoid contact and communication for a week. Don't call, text or email your ex and don't let them contact you. Don't go out of your way to see them. When you do come into contact casually, disengage as soon as it is polite to do so.

If your ex contacts you, it is a good idea to ask them to give you a week to sort things out. Ask them not to contact you and you will do the same for them. Let them know that this doesn't mean that you want to cut them out of your life, you just need a cooling off period and give them a date for when you will be willing to talk again.

By giving yourself some space, you can analyze your next move. You can decide whether you want to try to get your ex back or whether you want to move on. Don't make these decisions casually when you are feeling hurt and vulnerable.

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Article 1 In A Series of Articles On From Breaking Up To Making Up

Will My Ex Be Back

Introduction

Slam! Kristin closed the door to the car and Scott wondered what just happened. “I can't believe you just did that!” she said.

“Did what?” Scott said honestly.

“You were totally making out with that blonde chick!”

“Um, I was dancing with her because you said your feet hurt.”

“You don't care about me,” Kristin replys back.

“Huh?” is Scott's response.

“Well if you're going to be that way, I want out. We're through!” Kristin says. As the car pulls up to her house, she almost runs to get inside before Scott's even gotten out.

In this case, Scott and Kristin have broken up and nobody is sure what has really happened.

Are they doomed to live separate lives now or is there a chance that they can patch things up? This report looks at both scenarios. If Scott and Kristin are going to get back together, they need a cooling off period. Then, they need to work on rebuilding their relationship and fixing what is wrong.

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If, on the other hand they are destined to split, there are things they need to do to bring closure so they can move on.

This report is going to look at the anatomy of the end of the relationship – from the break up to the make up.

The Break Up

We'll first start by examining how people break up. Most people handle the break up all wrong. This can make the event far more painful than it has to be. Additionally, it can stand in the way of actually reconciling. So, if you're reading this before the break up, bear these things in mind.

If there is going to be a break up, there are some things you should do to make it fair.

Be Honest

If you are going to break up with someone, you owe it to your shared history to be honest about it. This doesn't mean that you have to dredge up everything that ever went wrong, but you should have a heart to heart about heading in opposite directions. Some of the time, one person realizes that things aren't as they should be before the other one does. By being honest, you can do your best to minimize the hurt your ex will experience.

If the relationship has gotten too serious and you are not ready for that level of commitment, let your ex know that it's not them.

But, if there is something specific that has gone on with your relationship, let the other person know. It might be something that will doom all of their relationships if they don't fix it. For instance, if your ex girlfriend nags you all of the time, you can tell her that her harping has irrevocably harmed your relationship. Or, if he refuses to communicate with you, let him know it's been a problem. These things are helpful not hurtful.

But, don't go into every little thing and don't drag out the conversation. Being honest doesn't mean talking things to death.

Article 2 of this series of articles on "From Breaking Up To Making Up" will be published tomorrow.

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Article 6 and Conclusion of The Series of Articles on Finding Someone Special To Spend Your Life With

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What to Look for in a Matchmaking Service

When choosing a matchmaking service, you should ask a lot of questions. For instance, find out how long the service has been in business because new companies have fewer members and fewer compatible matches. They also go out of business soon.

Find out what programs they have and the levels and fees for various services. Ask them about how many members they have and get the demographic details such as age, profession and religion. The best bet is to join a service with 1000 to 2000 members with equal numbers of males and females at the various age levels.

Be sure to find out what the relationship goals of the membership are. Is this a matchmaking service for those wanting to get married or just for people looking for a casual date?

Find out who does the actual matching and how long she has been working for the service. Keep in mind that the industry suffers from high turnover rates. If your matchmaker has moved on, ask for another interview with the new matchmaker so that they have a personal interest in you.

Find out what variables you will be matched on. Don't fall for services that “score” you. Also avoid smarmy services that remind you of used car salesmen.

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You should know how you will be informed about your matches. The best services phone you to describe the match and obtain your consent before exchanging your data with another client.

Ask what steps are taken to protect your confidentiality. If you don't get an answer that satisfies you, run!

Ask why the interviewer thinks the program fits you. One way to find out is to ask who the service turns down. Remember, if they take everyone, they'll suit no one.

Look for feedback and testimonials from other members, but keep in mind that the service will only produce the most positive ones.

Ask about what happens when members are dissatisfied. Is there a full or partial refund if the service does not turn out to be useful.

Finally, it's okay to ask the matchmaker what makes her service better than the competitor. Make sure her answer makes sense to you before signing on the dotted line.

The staff should never be allowed to date the members.

Additionally, the service should be located in an office that you go to. Beware of services that come to your home or meet you in a hotel lobby.

Conclusion

You may think it is hard to meet someone special. But your first order of business is to determine where you are in your life.

If you are a casual dater, someone special may be someone to be with you on New Year's Eve or Valentine's Day. You may want to date someone who doesn't have any long term relationship goals, they're just in it for right now.

If you are a more serious dater, you're looking for someone with a little more staying power. This doesn't have to be the man or woman you want to spend your life with, but maybe if the timing is right, you could possibly settle down in the future with him or her. You want someone who shares a good deal of your life interests as you will be spending a lot of time with them.

Finally, if you are laser targeted on finding a husband or wife, you need to take serious steps so that you are dating only people who are also looking for a long term relationship. You don't want to burn out on dating before you find Mr. or Ms. Right who you will raise children with.

It can be hard to find someone special. Both men and women can become frustrated with the lack of available members of the opposite sex! But, using the insight found in these six articles, you should be able to determine just how to find your dream match – where ever you are in your dating life.
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Article 5: Finding Someone Special To Spend Your Live With

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Online Dating Services

Online dating services are an evolution on personal ads. Lydda will first fill out a profile which states her demographics and preferences. The service's computer program then selects certain people who match her in ways she indicates such as age, race, religion, and relationship goal.

The service also has a library function where she can browse other people's profiles. Additionally, she can opt to have her profile go “live” so that men can contact her.

Online dating services vary in price. Most will let users join for no upfront fee with the restriction that they can only browse the listings. Once they actually want to contact or respond to other people using the service, they have to pay a fee. These fees can vary between $20 a month to $100+.

Some of the services offer very limited space for personal information. As a result, users get largely demographic data and not the personality of the person. Other services are more generous in what they allow. Most of the services offer a photo or video profile. Lydda may want to consider getting professional photographs to place on the service because this will make her more attractive to men who are searching the database or have been matched to her. Many people skip the profiles and just look at the pictures or only look at the profiles of the people they've found to be beautiful.

Lydda should keep in mind that each man compiles his own profile. They may be slanted – or just lies. She should take the same precautions with online dating that she does with personal ads.

Personal Matchmaking

Matchmaking has been a profession (or a calling, depending on how you look at it) in many cultures and across time. The current incarnation is the Personal Matchmaker.

The credentials, training, skill, professionalism, and ethics of matchmakers vary widely. Some matchmakers are part of a nationwide franchise and others are a more personalized boutique service.

Sometimes the matchmaker meets the clients, and sometimes she (it's almost always a she) does not.

In most cases the personal matchmaker will interview a potential client extensively asking questions about relationship goals and then make matches.

The service would screen and research matches for Lydda and then notify her via email or phone when a match is ready. If both Lydda and the man accept the match, names and numbers are exchanged. Basically, the service does all of the hard work and Lydda can have the fun.

The prices for personal matchmaking vary widely. You can expect to pay at least $1000 for a good service, but prices can go up to $5000 or more. The price for most companies is for a set period of time generally one or two years. Other services will give a certain number of matches for a set fee.

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A credible matchmaking service is good for a busy person like Lydda. She'll appreciate the convenience and time saved by having a professional setting up the matches.

Match making is the easiest, most time efficient way for Lydda to meet men. Keep in mind that everyone burns out when they do too much of something for too long. If Lydda gets on the dating treadmill, she may give up before she's met Mr. Right. But with a Matchmaking service, she cuts out most of the “work” of dating.

But these services are not perfect. The level of professionalism varies widely. Some of the problems include having you interview with someone other than the matchmaker or sending your data out of town to a computer program that supposedly matches you.

The forms you fill out are not standard psychological tests – they're just quizzes and may not even be taken into consideration. A good match maker can use these as tools, but they are not themselves the scientific basis for a relationship.
Article 6 will continue the focus on Matchmaking Services.
Ps.
Last year I was doing some “lateral thinking” trying to come up with a way
to assist the “dating market”…that wasnt already just over run with
competition.
And…I had an idea…that stemmed from thinking about the “people”
involved. Which most of my good ideas come from thinking like
or hanging out with the people involved.
So I was trying to pretend, after over a decade of marriage, that I was my
target market…and the question I asked was…
What brought me to a dating site?
Like eHarmony…or True…or Chemistry.com?
…And I had the thought that many probably come after a BREAK UP or
DIVORCE…or in the middle of a separation.
So…
I began to look for and hang out where these newly separated guys and
gals were hanging out.
…and what I discovered was that MANY wanted more than anything else
was a way to MAKE UP before the relationship completely broke up
forever. Secondarily, they wanted a way to deal with the emotions they
were having going through this very tough time.
Interesting huh?
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