Reasons to Move on After Heartbreak

The world is constantly changing and so are you. And just because a certain someone was right for you at one time doesn't mean they always will be. This is true in virtually every area of life including your career, home, habits, and your relationships.

Although we can't visibly see it, we are continually evolving into a bigger and better version of ourselves. Sometimes, as much as it hurts, we have to let go of someone because we grew in a different direction from them.

It's not good or bad - it just is. And the sooner you realize this, the quicker you can heal your heartbreak and move on with your own life. Have you even considered there's someone better for you out there? Someone perhaps more compatible?

Your lifestyle and the lifestyle of the person who broke your heart eventually stopped being compatible. If you can accept that your values were heading on a different course, you will understand why your union was temporary whether you were with them 3 years or 30 years. People change.

Let's explore why it's in your best interest to let go and move on.

1. Your Partner's Negativity is Starting to Make You Negative

Your partner's negativity is starting to rub off on you, and since you are the company you keep - you're turning into a negative, sour person.

Who you spend the majority of your time with greatly influences the person you are evolving into. Ever notice how your mood changes if you're around negative, pessimistic people for any length of time?

2. You and Your Partner Have Grown Apart

Sadly, no matter how much you wish things could be different, either you or your partner has slowly progressed away from your fundamental values. Truthfully, this is a natural part of life in many instances. Can you imagine how dreadful it would be if nothing and no one ever evolved, progressed, or changed? Unfortunately, this principle applies to couples as well and they simply grow apart.

Reasons to Move on After Heartbreak 

3. Your Primary Goals and Needs Have Changed

What worked for you in the beginning of a relationship no longer works now. You are different and so is your partner. You're not the same person you were 5 minutes ago let alone after 5 years. It's hard to let go and may be difficult to start fresh with your new truth, but it's necessary.

4. You are Afraid to Let Go

Depending on how long you've been in a relationship with someone, it may be overwhelming and scary to think of yourself on your own.

So you have to ask yourself - do you want to remain in a miserable but somewhat secure (financial) relationship? Or take a leap of faith in order to find a level of happiness you've never known before?

Don't let your disappointments and fears hold you back from living your best life ever.

5. Old Grudges and Resentments

You're letting an old grudge keep you from complete happiness and joy. Holding on to hatred, resentment, and anger doesn't hurt or affect the other person, it only hurts you.

Forgiving someone doesn't mean it's okay what they did to you; what it does mean is you're willing to forgive, forget, and move on. The Universe will take care of their wrongdoings in terms of karma, so no worries there.

Let go of the pain this person has caused you and anyone else for that matter. The grudge is only hurting you.

No matter how much it hurts, sometimes the best and obvious answer is to simply let go and move on. And when you do, doors will open for you in ways you never thought possible. Trust that it will happen, and it will.

How to Make Her Fall in Love With You Again

How often do you wish you could simply turn back the clock and start over with your love? The desire to do so is more prevalent and commonplace than you probably realize. Fortunately, you don't need a time machine, magic carpet, or handy dandy neuralyzer, like the one Tommy Lee Jones used to erase memories in the movie Men in Black, to help your girl fall in love with you all over again. Here are a few tactics you do need to keep in mind, though, if you want your efforts to be successful.

Make it all About Her

Now is the time to put your idea of romance on the shelf. When you're working to win her back, you need to go back to the basics and make a concentrated effort to literally sweep her off her feet and back into your arms. Revisit your first date. Even if the exact location isn't feasible for the two of you now (distance, time, no longer in business, etc.) try to create a date that gives a nod back to your first days together. It will leave her thinking about happier times and have you both remembering the endearing qualities about each other that made you fall in love in the first place.

How to Make Her Fall in Love With You Again

Make Her Laugh

After a while, relationships become so serious. We seem to take all the fun out of them. Most women have stated, more than once, that their man's sense of humor was what attracted her to him in the first place. The Levi's or Wrangler's, depending on where you're from, ran a close second. The big point to take away from all this is that laughter is the way to her heart more often than not. If your goal is to win her back, then making her laugh is a great place to begin.

Romance her Between the Ears

Chocolates, flowers, and romantic gestures are all well and good. If you want to set her heart aflutter, however, you're going to have to touch the space between her ears. Yes, it's the brain. It’s a scary proposition for many guys, but today's woman is bright, savvy, and one tough cookie. Reaching out and touching her heart will only get her attention briefly. If you want to hold onto that attention, you're going to have to give her something to wrap her mind around.

It may seem a little hard to do at first, but once you begin practicing these pathways to success, you're sure to find a much better success rating for your efforts to win her back.

Sharing Life Sincerely

Couples enmeshed in relationships find themselves requiring a bond beyond those of work or even familial relationships. A conversation with a friend might stop short before broaching uncomfortable topics or entering into long held beliefs. For strong and meaningful relationships, couples need to plunge deeper into conversations, experiences and one another.


Talking Into Depth

People in relationship note communication as a sticking point for being seen and seeing their partner. One might not feel heard. Someone may believe they understand their partner's needs. These hover near the surface. Living a deeper life requires an in depth form of communication.

Basic Structure: Most couples state their own needs easily believing they have a clear understanding of what brings them happiness, how they feel heard or the best method to explain their plans for the future. Normally, two people speaking focus on their side of the equation. Even the best communicators can miss the structure of communication being a two way street.

Deeper Action: Taking simple steps to improve deeper communication will allow couples to hear more than the things issuing from their side of the conversation.

* Quiet Setting-Shutting down devices like phones, tablets and television reduces the outside clutter.
* Repeat the Message-Stating what has been heard from their partner demonstrates the person's investment in listening and absorbing the other half of the conversation.
* Take Risks-Sharing more than surface thoughts and feelings allow for greater trust while giving a deeper insight into what is occurring in one's own heart.

Sharing Life Sincerely 

Change in Setting

Too often people seek comfortable ways to interact with one another. Because of this safety, rarely do partners see the ones they love in a vulnerable state. Taking this risk does not need to involve shedding tears. It can be as simple as doing something out of the ordinary.

* Get Outside-Moving about in a different environment might allow for new conversations. A hike a few miles outside the city or a walking tour downtown gets the blood, mind and mouths moving.
* Try an Activity-Playing a game, drawing with sidewalk chalk or cooking a meal together permits couples to see new sides of each other. The greatest challenge is not judging each other during the "try out" period. It is often best to pick something neither has much experience with.
* Day Trip-Going on a short trip to a new town breaks up the routine. Taking a day off work during the middle of the week, go for a drive and then find a fun lunch spot where a meal can be shared offers an instant adventure. This proves challenging, but can be rewarding.

Getting Heart Deep

The hardest conversations for couples never center around simple, surface items. The things held close to the heart and well guarded challenges every couple. Too often, both are holding things back. They may fear judgement or sharing something they never have disclosed are the very reason relationships exist. Sharing hidden truths can be the hardest thing someone undergoes, but the rewards far exceed the safety of holding these secrets.

Every single aspect of living a sincere life within a relationship means taking a risk. Investing in another person, listening to them, adventuring beside them and sharing the deepest parts of your hearts with one another is not for the faint of heart. Be brave and trust the relational foundation of love. From there, a truer life awaits.

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Should you ever spend a night with your ex.

You get to indulge in the finer things in life without having to deal with the complicated process of forming a relationship. But where do you draw the line when it comes to one night stands?

Of all the people you could have a one night stand with, an ex is one of the most complicated. In the heat of the moment you may find yourself about to hook up with someone you thought you were never going to be with again.

If all goes well, it can be quite the treat. There is always the possibility however, that it will not. To avoid unnecessary drama in your life, there are a few things you should consider before hooking up with an ex, even for "old times' sake".

Is Anything Clouding Your Judgement?

This is the first thing you should always ask yourself if you are considering this situation. Hooking up with your ex can lead to a landslide of regret the following morning if you realize it's not something you really wanted to do.

If you are under the influence of any drugs or alcohol your decision making skills take a back seat and impulse and desire take over the wheel. Many impaired people let their clouded judgement take control and forget to think over consequences.

If you know there is a possibility of hooking up with your ex, make sure you have considered it with a completely sober mindset first.

Consider Why You Broke Up To Begin With

It is hard to define whether or not you should have a one night stand with your ex since it is so circumstantial. Certain people have no problem doing it and with others it leads to turmoil.
 Analyze the way your relationship was and think about why it ended. Which one of you wanted to end it? Did you split up on good terms?

Should you ever spend a night with your ex.

If you were the one that wanted to break it off, you should find out whether or not your ex still has feelings for you. They could be expecting something much different to come from the one night stand.

You don't want to hook up with them if it means you will end up breaking their heart all over again. To solve this issue, make it clear that it is only a one night deal. If you are both mature about it with control of your feelings, it could be fine.

Think About What You Are Looking For

The last thing to do before you hook up with an ex is to find out why you are doing it. Analyze the motives behind your actions before making the big decision.

Do you want to do it purely for the sex? If this is the case than why did you choose your ex? There are plenty of other new experiences laying ahead of you that you could be exploring.

If you are doing it purely for the comfort of being with someone you know, make sure you keep it strictly physical with minimal emotions.

But perhaps you are doing it for another reason. Is the one night stand motivated by a desire to be with them? If so, then why pick a one night stand? If the desire is strong enough, talk to your ex about your feelings and find out where they stand to see if your feelings match up.

Just be aware, if they are looking for sex and you are looking for a relationship, you could end up getting hurt. With all this in mind, deciding whether or not to hook up with your ex will be a lot easier. Before you make a final decision, prepare yourself for the fact that one night stands can toy with emotions before making your decision. Analyze the motives of you and your partner and just to be safe, make a set of rules that define the night as a one time thing.

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Signs He Wants To Leave You

Men aren't generally known for initiating conversations about their relationships. They don't seem too interested in the topics that women usually talk about. So, when they decide they want to break up, it seems quite sudden to the woman.

But in reality they've probably been thinking about it for quite awhile. If a man decides he wants to end a relationship, this decision may happen in his head long before he actually takes action on it.

In the meantime, he may start acting out of character and quite different from the man you fell in love with. Until a man gets enough courage to tell you it's over, you're somewhat left in the dark and constantly left to guess what's going on with them. But the signs are there. You just need to know what to look for.

He's not as talkative as he used to be and generally keeps to himself when you're around.

Men tend to be quiet when they're uncomfortable around certain people. You've probably noticed he doesn't talk about his day like he used to or divulge much information about his life in general anymore.

When you're in his company, he gets very quiet. But as soon as his cell phone rings and he answers, his personality and charm pop back to life and he's suddenly his old self again.

He rarely texts you anymore or has stopped altogether.

At first, he text you about everything, but now you're lucky if you get one text a day. Men usually text on a whim about whatever they're feeling or thinking at the time.

Signs He Wants To Leave You

Once this stops, it indicates you're no longer in his thoughts or priority one. Does he talk to you as if you're a stranger on the phone? This is a red flag that he's probably already moved on, at least in his mind.

He's working longer hours just to stay away from you.

Several men love their jobs and go the extra mile in an effort to further their career. We're not talking about those men.

We're talking about men who voluntarily take on more work and longer hours just so they can avoid seeing less of you. Hurts, doesn't it? You'll notice the change in them as compared to their previous behavior.

He would rather watch sports than to have sex with you.

If your man is constantly coming up with excuses, especially sports-related ones, about why he's too busy to have sex with you, that's an even bigger red flag.

Men are programmed to think about sex and want sex practically anytime, anywhere. So, if he's consistently turning you down, something has changed, and not for the better.

He doesn't bring you around his friends anymore.

When you two first got together, he couldn't wait to introduce to his friends and family. But if he's going out with his friends more frequently now and leaving you at home while he's out doing whatever, he probably wants the two of you to end.

When relationships fall apart, it's never easy no matter how long you've been together, how old you are, or what reasons led to the breakup. It's just plain hard. How you leave a relationship though will determine the class of person you are. If it's truly over, leave with your dignity intact.

There's something better waiting for you in your future.

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Silly Mistakes Derailing Your Efforts to Get Your Ex Back

How long have you been working to get your ex back without seeing any real results? Many people in your shoes are surprised to learn that it isn't what you aren't doing that's holding you back. It's the things you are doing, that are working against you. Here are a few common roadblocks that could be derailing your trip back to relationship bliss.

You are Proud to be there for Your Ex

It's a noble idea. Really it is. However, if you're there for a friendly ear, a comforting shoulder, or a fast perk-me-up whenever your ex needs it from you, your ex isn't really missing out on the benefits of being in a relationship with you. It's getting all the fringe benefits of a loving relationship without putting in the work to keep things going. Instead, you're going to have to let your ex deal with the stings life delivers sometimes without the solace of your comforting presence.

You Keep Trying

I know this one goes against everything your heart (and to some degree your head) is screaming at your right now. However, in times of crisis, reason isn't even in charge of your head either. Reason rarely rules the heart. Why should a time of emotional distress be any different? One person can't do it all in the relationship.

Pat Benatar had it right when she sang, "Love is a Battlefield." Love is war and the winners, in love, have a plan. The tactical advantage goes to the one who retreats, assesses the situation impartially, and plans a strategic assault with victory in mind. You had better believe love is war. And you need to take a little time to assess your current position, the hostility of the terrain, and the best path to victory before you go in with guns (or in this case Cupid's arrows) blazing.

Silly Mistakes Derailing Your Efforts to Get Your Ex Back

You Attack from a Position of Weakness

Fans of NCIS know that team leader Gibbs is always telling his team not to apologize. According to Gibbs, apologizing is a sign of weakness. While that's a philosophical debate for the most part, when you're trying to save your relationship or get your ex back, it is often viewed, the leaving party, as a sign of weakness. You don't want to make your move from an inferior position. Instead, lead with your strengths.

Show your power. Establish your dominance. Come in swinging from a position of strength and don't ever let your ex see you sweat. There's nothing sexier, to members of the opposite sex, than confidence. Be confident in yourself, your contribution to the relationship, and the fact that it's just not time for this relationship to end.

Above all else, don't make a move until you know what you're going to do next. Have a contingency plan in place for a favorable outcome as well as a less-than-favorable outcome so that you don't come across as desperate if you don't win this round. Your mind needs to remain focused on the long-term prize of getting your ex back and every plan needs to ultimately lead you down that happy road.

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